Why does the thought of commitment scare the crap out of so many people?
A committed relationship like boyfriend/girlfriend is one thing but marriage really scares the pants off people. Yes, it is obvious that we all can't have a fairytale ending. Therefore, I understand that as a valid concern but sometimes you have to take a leap of faith. After a certain age when you date, you should ideally be looking for someone that you could see yourself with for the rest of your life. Long time.. yeah i know.
Men and women seem to view commitment very differently too. I'd say both are equally afraid especially when it comes to saying "I Do" but they just express it differently. I've had males say that the thought of marrying their current girlfriend makes their skin crawl. I've always heard being married is being locked down or your 20s are for having fun and your 30s are for settling down.
I personally am somewhat afraid of one day saying "I do" but not because I can't see myself with my current bf for the rest of my life but more so because of the lack of positive role models in my life. I've seen several couples get married and get a divorce soon after, have babies and not get married at all, or just have an extremely long term relationship that never ends in marriage. I don't really care for any of these outcomes. I always say if I get married I'm only getting married ONCE and I will do whatever it takes to make it work and if it doesn't then so be it.
There is soooo much negativity with cheating and divorce and other bullshit that I think people don't even trust themselves to be able to commit.
I hate to bring up the race issue but I definitely think some minorities have never had the stability of family members who were truly committed and married therefore they are unsure if they themselves can do it or like myself they see the example in front of them and they dream to do differently!
Once a female finds a man she can see as "hubby" she may find herself pressing the issue of their future
BUTTTTTTTTT if a man is not ready this will only make him more apprehensive because she is being pushy. This is automatically a road block in the relationship.
I want to be married and I want to have kids and be a role model for them. Hopefully the 10 letters dont scare anyone away ;-)
About Me
- LeMaree
- Its pretty simple .. im outgoing, loving, intelligent, driven, understanding, craZy, determined, creative, dependable,trustworthy, a leader,and a believer! I am a college graduate with 2 degrees in nursing as well as my nursing license. Simply trying to find a job so I can begin to write the next chapter in my life!
Hey, sweetie!! You have LOTS of role models if you would just look! Mr. Fitz has been married forever and his family life seems SOOO good! You should see Mr. Ewald being so thoughtful with his wife who has had many medical issues over the years- it is so sweet! (He would KILL me if he knew I was writing this, lol!) Mr. Rauscher, Mr.Sullivan, even me! We've all been married a lot longer than you've been alive! And we are all happy in our marriages- still in love after all these years and everything we've been through. There are lots more if you just think about it but these are the ones who come immediately to my mind. Hang in there girl- you are sensible and have good instincts; it will work you for you.
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